The Best Things About Being Single

Ella Gregory Coco's Tea Party

As someone who has been single for a long time, I’m all too aware that most of the conversations had around singledom focus on how to find a partner. As if that should be your sole purpose in life if you’re unattached.

And I know that I’m guilty of falling into that trap too. I have a whole archive of posts about dressing for a first date, writing online dating profiles and redefining dating rules.

But today I want to change the conversation we have around being single. And instead of discussing the myriad of ways you can attempt to couple-up, let’s focus on why being single is actually pretty damn amazing.

Now, don’t get me wrong, this isn’t to say I’m full of Samantha Jones confidence. Like anyone, there are days when I find being single really, f***ing hard. And, it’s important to point out that many (if not all) of the “perks” I list below can also be enjoyed in relationships. So this isn’t a declaration that being single is better than being in a relationship, or vice versa.

I just thought it was about time we changed some of the language we use around being single, and celebrated the positives. Because there are many…

Why Being Single Is Great

The Best Things About Being Single

1. Texting back-and-forth with your best single girlfriends after a first date to share all of the juicy gossip. Often times this post-date debrief is more fun than the date itself. You’re always rooting for each other, and there’s a true sense of camaraderie. Here is the full transcript of one of my recent, more entertaining, date debriefs…

Sol: You were on a date? How was it?

Me: Yep. Just on my way home now. I REALLY need a wee! Other than that it was good.

Sol: Come on, what type of a review is that?

Me: The important kind.

I just found a toilet at the station though

JOY!!! That was a delightful wee.


Me: Not as good as that wee, but it was definitely good.

2. You don’t have to divide your time for family and friends up between your partners’ family and friends too. In Everything I Know About Love Dolly Alderton makes the observation that once her friends started settling down their priorities changed, and began to look more like the following:

Family > Boyfriend > Boyfriend’s family > Boyfriend’s friends > Friends

Now, before anyone in a relationship takes offence at this, let me say a few things first… 1) This isn’t true of every person in a relationship. 2) Dolly was mainly making this point to demonstrate the fact that women typically make more of an effort to immerse themselves in their partners’ lives than men do. And 3) There is absolutely nothing wrong with changing your priorities when you fall in love.

But, the great thing about being single, is you can dedicate ALL of your free time to your own family and friends. And that is an everyday luxury we often completely ignore. So, whilst you’re single, enjoy the fact that you get to do this.

The Best Things About Being Single

3. You can be more independent when it comes to travel. Again, this isn’t to say that it’s impossible to enjoy solo adventures when you’re in a relationship (I know plenty of people who do). But, generally speaking, it’s easier to take advantage of this option when you’re single.

I’ve travelled solo numerous times, over the years, and have always found that I learnt a lot about myself and grew in the process. And I’m planning to book a week-long yoga retreat for early 2019, which is something I’ve wanted to do for a while. I’m not sure that I’d treat myself to an indulgent, solo retreat if I was in a relationship, so I want to make it a priority while I can.

4. You can sleep in the middle of the bed, spread out like a starfish. And you don’t have to fight anyone for the lion’s share of the covers.

5. You can date yourself. I referenced Samantha Jones at the top of the post, and am going to give her a shout-out again. Because her line from the Sex and the City movie when she’s breaking up with Smith Jerrod is iconic. “I love you, but I love me more,” she tells him.

Those are some pretty powerful words, right? And that’s the wonderful thing about being single: you can love yourself the most, every day!

Lately I’ve been trying to do a much better job of loving myself. I’ve started buying expensive coffee for lazy weekend mornings at home, I’ve given myself more time to do the things I enjoy (reading, yoga etc). And even enrolled in Spanish lessons, because I’ve wanted to learn the language for such a long time.

Again, you can obviously show yourself love even if you’re in a relationship. But, if you are single, why not throw all of your energy into loving yourself? I promise you’ll have a lot of fun!

What do you think are the best things about being single? Leave a comment below to share your thoughts…

Style Credits: Ba&sh dress from Bicester Village (gifted) | Aspinal of London bag (gifted)

Photos by Victoria Metaxas


  1. Absolutely! Being single is underrated and so often it is associated with doom and gloom, when there is so much that one could do to make the most of the time available – theflairsophy |

  2. Siloe GirlsLive says:

    I love this! Being single for a while, I learned more about myself and face inner demons that I knew I couldn’t face had I been in a relationship. I’ve conquered so much and discovered inner passions and curiosities without all the distractions. Plus, I know that I can be happy alone with our without someone.


  3. Ruth says:

    I’m working on the self love aspect. Learning to date myself for sure and i am certain it’s worth it! x

  4. Absolutely loved this, Ella! I *hate* how the conversation around we’re pitied for being single and congratulated for coupling up, like one is the ultimate goal and the other is a failing of some kind. Both are flawed and wonderful in their own ways! And while I love being married, there are lots of things I miss about being single too (getting to take up the whole bed if I want, watching what I want, eating whatever I want for dinner, being completely selfish with my diary). I’m pretty sure you’re not meant to say any of those things out loud once you’re in a relationship, but I’m sure anyone who says otherwise is lying 😉

    Briony xox

  5. This is so me right now!!! I literally wake up some days and am happy that I don’t have to worry about whether I’ve remembered to phone or text anyone, and if I don’t want to go out, I don’t have to!

    Plus dating apps are so dull, and people are so boring!!!!


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