5 Ways to Be a Great Friend This Festive Season

Ella Gregory Monica Welburn Friendship

The festive season is a busy time for all of us. Honestly, at the end of every week I just want to collapse on the sofa and watch Love Actually. Christmas commitments can be incredibly draining! But it’s so important not to neglect friendships at this hectic time of year.

I’ve teamed up with Messenger, who have just launched their new peer to peer payment function in the UK, to share my top tips for being a brilliant friend over Christmas and New Year…


I would definitely describe myself as a “Christmas fanatic”. I just love everything about the Holiday Season. It’s filled with so much joy and magic. So, as you can imagine, I spend a lot of time planning festive friendship dates. Ice skating, gingerbread baking and early Christmas lunches are always a winner. And I’d love to attend a wreath making workshop with a friend, this year. It looks like so much fun!

Whilst it can seem like a bit of a drag to start booking time with your friends so far in advance, it’s 100% worth it. Our diaries fill up so quickly in November and December, and you won’t get to spend time with everyone you’ve been hoping to see unless you plan ahead.

Coffee Date Messenger P2P


The festive season is always rammed with friendship dates, from catch-up coffees to boozy dinners. And these usually end in a logistical nightmare, when it comes to splitting the bill.

Thankfully, however, Messenger has just launched a new function called P2P, in the UK, which makes it so much easier to transfer money to your friends. You simply set up your debit/credit card details on your Messenger account (FYI, you don’t need a Facebook account to use Messenger). And then you can begin transferring money directly to your Messenger contacts (so long as they also set up their debit/credit card details).

P2P is a super-speedy way to transfer money to your friends. It removes the hassle of getting your BFF’s bank details (and the pressure of writing them down correctly!). And any money you send is transferred immediately.

You can view a log of your payment history and receipts to keep track of your finances. Plus, you’re able to add an extra layer of security to P2P payments by setting up a special PIN.

Monica and I are forever splitting the cost of coffees, dinners and gifts for mutual friends, so we love the ease of P2P. Give it a go if you constantly find yourself splitting the bill with your BFFs…

Messenger P2P Coffee Date

I’m Wearing:
Jigsaw coat | Baukjen knit | Zara top (past season) | L.K. Bennett leggings (past season) | Seven Boot Lane boots (past season) | Mulberry handbag (past season).
Monica Wears:
New Look dress | Karen Millen coat (past season) | Topshop bag | Lois Avery scarf | Topshop beret | New Balance sneakers

Location: The Roasting Party, Sloane Square. Flowers from Moyses Stevens.


Christmas and New Year can be a challenging and draining time for many – especially those that have recently lost a loved one or gone through a breakup. If you know that one of your friends will be struggling this season, make an extra effort to reach out and provide emotional support. The simple act of sending a text message that says, “I’m thinking of you right now, and am always here if you want to talk” goes a long way.

Your friend may not feel like getting involved in raucous Christmas parties, so try to find other ways you can celebrate the season together. Perhaps you could host a quiet Christmas movie night at home, or plan a long walk followed by hot chocolate and mince pies.

Monica Welburn Ella Gregory Messenger


When it comes to gifting, I’m crazy about personalisation. It’s such an easy and cost-effective way to present someone with a thoughtful and unique gift. If you and your bestie have any in-jokes or hilarious sayings (for Monica and I they’re “sassy power” and “BIG husbands” – don’t ask) get them engraved on a piece of jewellery or embossed on a notebook. I guarantee it will be a memorable and much loved Christmas gift!

How to be a Good Friend Over the Festive Season


I think we can all agree on one thing… the festive season is BUSY! And we could all use a helping hand at some point. If your friend is hosting a Holiday Season party offer to arrive early and help them set up. This gesture will not go unnoticed, and is sure to be appreciated.

Monica and I are both fans of an “errand date”, so will happily join each other as we dart around town ticking off mundane tasks. This is a great way to help a friend out and it gives you some bonus catch-up time. If it’s impossible to sync schedules with your BFF over Christmas, see if you can combine your errands as a way to spend time together instead.

Are you excited about the launch of Messenger P2P? And how do you plan on being a great friend this festive season? Leave a comment below to have your say…

~ This post was sponsored by Messenger. Thank you for continuing to support the sponsors that make Coco’s Tea Party possible. ~

Psst… Stuck for festive friendship date ideas? Head over to Monica’s blog, The Elgin Avenue, where she’s sharing 5 Festive Lady Date Ideas.

Photos by Victoria Metaxas


  1. Together with my friends we have such elaborate Excel sheets of who owes what, we probably beat all small business accounting 🙂

  2. These are all such lovely tips and honestly it really is a time where we need to be thinking of others too!


    • cocos_tea_party says:

      Aw thank you Shloka. We must make time for a coffee in the New Year, once all the festive season craziness is out of the way xx

  3. DreamInLace says:

    It’s such a BUSY time of year for all of us. Right now, my chest is a little bit tight thinking about everything coming up and all that needs to get down. Somehow I know I’ll make it work but it is stressful…for friends, I think the festive season is a great time to come together, laugh and vent a little. There are definitely things we can say to our friends that we can’t say to our family and when things get stressful, it’s always good to make time for them to unwind.

    xoxo – Kelly

    • cocos_tea_party says:

      Hi Kelly. That is SO true. I think Christmas can be very challenging when you’re forced to spend a lot of time with relatives you may not see throughout the year, and who always manage to push our buttons. Venting with friends really is the only way to get through it haha xx

  4. Jandrew says:

    Darling I’m recommending you for Sainthood. All such great ideas
    Ideas if I can implement a few of them I’ll feel great!
    Dress The Part


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