As peak wedding season winds down for another year, I thought now was the perfect time to give a little attention to all of the brides-to-be out there. Whether you’re already in the throes of planning your day, or have just stared to determine what your dream wedding looks like, I’ve sourced some invaluable advice that’s sure to help your big day run smoothly…
I invited a small group of newlyweds to share everything they wish they’d known when they first started planning their weddings. With the benefit of hindsight they know the obstacles to look out for, and how to make a wedding day feel extra special. Get ready to take notes!
“Try not to get too caught up in making everything perfect, because on the day things will go wrong.”
“As an interior designer, I planned our wedding down to the finest detail. But I would advise all brides-to-be to avoid getting too caught up in trying to make everything perfect. On the day things will go wrong – our marquee flooded! And, ultimately, it doesn’t matter. Your wedding guests are your best friends and family; they’re there to celebrate your marriage and have a great party – the small details aren’t important to them. I also wish that I had asked a friend to video all of the speeches, because it would be so lovely to watch them back again.” – Georgie Pugh, Interior Designer
“I wish that someone had told me to delegate more on the big day”
“When I started the wedding planning process I wish that someone had told me to delegate more on the big day. It’s a long story, but I had two ceremonies – one in Italy and one in Edinburgh. I had a wedding planner for the ceremony in Italy and everything ran smoothly. But in Edinburgh I tried to manage everything myself, and I wish I had handed over the organisation on the wedding day itself to a member of family or a friend. Whenever something went wrong it was me who knew about it, and I really wish that hadn’t been the case. It’s true what they say – ignorance is bliss. Especially on your wedding day!” – Frances Hudson, co-founder of Rewritten, the collection for cool bridesmaids.
“Decide what’s important to you as a couple and stick to it. Let the trivial things go.”
“The truth about wedding planning is that whilst it is fun and romantic, the run up to the big day can be pretty stressful. Dealing with the thoughts and opinions of friends and family, plus budget restrictions and timescales can be a minefield. However, it’s so important to remember that it’s YOUR day. Decide what’s important to you as a couple and stick to it. Let the trivial things go. I know many people get nervous before the day, but just remember that you have invited the people closest to you – they are there to support you. There aren’t many opportunities in life when you have everyone you love in one room wishing their upmost love and best wishes for you. It’s an incredible feeling, and one that I will always cherish.” – Claire Wainwright, founder and editor of thegreeneyedgirl.co.uk
“Look for inspiration that’s relevant to your day. Most wedding websites allow you to search by season or theme.”
“Most couples dedicate an entire year to wedding planning. And, if you’re not careful, you can easily spend that time second guessing every decision you’ve made. Even though we’d chosen a winter wedding, I still spent ages on Pinterest looking at outdoor festival weddings and flower crowns. And then I was disappointed when my florist couldn’t source peonies in the middle of November (doh!). So I would suggest focusing your inspiration on what’s relevant to your day. Make a note of everything you love about the season/location/venue you’ve chosen, and focus your energy on those elements. Most wedding blogs allow you to narrow your search by season or theme, which will stop you from daydreaming about things that aren’t feasible for your day.” – Jaclyn Craig, founder and editor of bumpkinbetty.com
What advice would you give to brides-to-be if you’re also a recent newlywed? Share your thoughts and experiences below in the comments section…