Last month I attended a crystal meditation hosted by Tamara Driessen, AKA Wolf Sister. Anyone who has followed Coco’s Tea Party for a long time will know that I’m not a big fan of meditating, but I felt so energised and positive after my session with Tamara.
Afterwards we started talking about crystals, tarot reading, human design and astrology, and I just knew that I had to get Tamara on the blog. I find her career story absolutely fascinating, and I’m sure you will too. So, without further ado, here’s a look inside Tamara Driessen’s super-cool 9 to 5…
Hi Tamara. So, let’s start at the beginning. When did you first develop an interest in crystals? And where did your connection with crystals stem from?
It started off when I was a child. I was really into crystals – just intuitively drawn to them without knowing why. I just liked having them around me. And when I was a teenager I started reading about the power of crystals in magazines, and that’s when I realised they could be used for different things.
My main focus as a teenager was to get a boyfriend, and I read that garnet was good at attracting love. So I saved up all of my pocket money for weeks and bought a garnet ring from Elizabeth Duke at Argos. And it worked! I got a boyfriend! Although I’m not with him any more, obviously.
Did you have any desire to work as a crystal healer when you were first pursing this interest as a teenager?
Oh, it definitely wasn’t something I actively pursued when I was younger. Until recently I worked as a hairdresser.
I always liked having crystals around me, but for a long time I was quite passive about them. However, towards the end of my twenties I had a bit of a breakdown, and started to feel very disconnected from myself. And my need to feel more grounded and supported lead me back to crystals.
I just soaked up everything I could learn about them… Reading books, going to workshops, buying crystals for my friends, hanging out in crystal shops and learning as much about their energy as possible.
After getting back into crystals, how did you then make the transition from hairdresser to crystal healer?
About five years ago I went to Bali to be a Shaman’s apprentice. I learnt about healing practises, and how to connect with the spirit and energies of different elements of nature. And that’s when I began meditating with crystals – rather than just leaving them to roll around in the bottom of my handbag.
Before I got back into crystals I was anxious, unsettled and really unhappy in myself. And when I came back from Bali a lot of my friends wanted to have healing sessions with me, because they could see that there had been a big shift in my energy. Everyone was curious to see if crystals could have a similar affect on them.
So I started off working with friends. And then through word of mouth it spread, and soon I was doing healing sessions for friends-of-friends. Initially it was just for my personal practise. I never thought “I’m going to be a healer, I’m going to do this full-time.” I just did it to be happy, and doors started opening for me. I went to Ibiza to do crystal healings at Healing Ibiza. And people started following me on Instagram, where I was sharing a lot of information about crystals.
Were you nervous about switching from a “traditional” career path – working as a hairdresser – to something less conventional?
So nervous! I officially stopped working at the hairdressing salon in January this year, after slowly reducing my hours. I had so much internal programming telling me healing wasn’t a career, and that I wouldn’t be able to live off it. So I had to do a lot of work on my mindset before I was able to quit hairdressing completely.
Last year I got a book deal, and that helped to build up my trust muscle. And I’d also been keeping track of my incomings and outgoings for a few of years, and as time progressed I started to see that even though I was only working with crystals part-time I was covering all of my bills and making it sustainable. That gave me the confidence to leave the salon.
Now that you’re working as a crystal healer and tarot reader full-time, what does your typical day look like?
It varies, because if I’m teaching an evening workshop my day will start a little bit later. But, in general, I like to be slow in the morning. I normally wake up between 7.30 and 8am. I’ll make myself a hot water and lemon and do a meditation, and I might also pull a tarot card. Then I’ll have some breakfast. My favourite breakfast night now is a chia seed bowl, soaked overnight, with some granola and fruit. It’s super easy and always feels like a treat!
After breakfast I catch up on my emails, and then set up my treatment room if I have client appointments. I light my candles and use palo santo to clear the space and get the vibes in the room just right.
If I’m hosting a workshop I’ll spend the afternoon going through the running order of the evening. And I also take some time to tune into the energy of the group, ahead of time.
What’s the biggest challenge that you currently face in your 9 to 5?
Burnout. Because I get so overexcited and end up working until really late at night. But the lines get blurred when you’re doing something that you love. When you’re in a job that you don’t like it’s much easier to stop and say, “Right, I’m just going to watch Netflix.” But when you’re passionate about something it’s really hard to switch off. So burnout is my biggest challenge, right now.
What advice would you give to anyone who would like to get to know more about crystals?
You only need one crystal. So if you haven’t already got a crystal, go to a crystal shop and buy your first crystal. Then make time to get to know that crystal: find out what it’s about by researching it online (try Crystal Vaults), and see what situations come up in your day-to-day life that could connect to its meaning.
Always go for the crystal that you’re physically drawn to, and then find out what it represents afterwards. Your intuition is always more expansive than someone telling you, “You’re anxious so you need this crystal.” So trust your intuition – it will always lead you to what you need.
And, finally, if you could go back in time and give your 15-year-old self one piece of advice, what would you tell her?
Don’t worry about what other people think, and do what makes you happy.
For so long I put off doing certain things because I was worried about what other people would think. But as soon as I stopped worrying, and committed to what excites me, the right opportunities started to open up.
At first people were skeptical about crystal healing, and made a few jokes about it. But it just took a while for people to get their heads around it. I remember reading a crystal book on my lunch break at the salon and one of the girls was like, “Are you going to be like this forever?”
And it’s funny because she was super-skeptical to begin with. But out of all of my friends she is now one of the most supportive. She was the first person to pre-order my book when it went up on Amazon. So it just shows that people do come around, but always in their own time.
I sometimes do mentoring, and people often ask, “But what will other people think?” And the truth is, it’s not our job to convince and convert other people. It’s our responsibility to do what we love and live our truth, and people always come around in their own time if they’re meant to.
Pre-order Tamara Driessen’s book, The Crystal Code: Balance Your Energy, Transform Your Life, on Amazon. Visit wolfsister.com for more information, and follow Tamara on Instagram at @_wolfsister. All images courtesy of Tamara Driessen.
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