Is It a Mistake to Always Date Your Type?

Is It a Mistake to Always Date Your Type

The Bachelor and Bachelorette franchises are my latest trashy TV addiction, and I recently finished watching Andi Dorfman’s season, which prompted me to take a closer look at the type of men I usually date…

By the final episode of The Bachelorette Andi, a former Assistant District Attorney from Atlanta, had narrowed her search for a husband down to two guys.

Nick had received Andi’s “first impression rose” in the season premiere, and was a front-runner from the beginning. He was sensitive, passionate and very open about his feelings for Andi.

Josh, on the other hand, had to work a lot harder for Andi’s attention. As a confident, charismatic, former athlete he was 100% Andi’s type. The type she’d been left heartbroken by in the past and had gone onto the show to get away from.

Andi Dorfman Josh Murray The Bachelorette

But who received Andi’s final rose? Josh, of course. She accepted his proposal in the season finale, and they lived happily ever after (until ending their engagement nine months later).

Does Having a Type Make Dating More Difficult?

Aside from being seriously entertaining, Andi’s season of The Bachelorette made me think long and hard about my own dating experiences. Because I also have a type. Sporty, quick-witted Americans in baseball caps – preferably over 6ft. So it’s highly likely I would have fallen for Josh too. And, just like Andi, my type has not exactly served me well in the past.

First of all, it’s quite hard to find sporty Americans in baseball caps when you live in London. But I manage to track them down. And then the real problems begin, because they have yet to prove they’re a particularly trustworthy or reliable group. So I’ve often wondered whether having a very specific type is a recipe for disaster.

But, like Andi, the sensitive, good-on-paper Nicks of the world fail to light my fire. I’ve deliberately dated outside my type a lot this year, and even when the guy in question is absolutely amazing my heart never catches up with my head.

So, I’m wondering, do you have a type? And, if yes, do you think it helps or hinders you when it comes to dating?

Or perhaps you’re in a relationship with someone who isn’t your type at all, and think dating outside your type was the best decision you ever made. Let me know in the comments section below. I’d love to hear your thoughts on the subject…

P.S. I read 3 bestselling dating books and this is what I learnt

{Lead image J.Crew via Pinterest. Andi Dorfman and Josh Murray on The Bachelorette.}