How I’m Changing My Approach to Dating

Healthy Dating Rules 2018

Just before Christmas I posted a little rant about men on Instagram Stories. After another full year of dating, by December I’d simply had enough of men and all of their bulls**t. My single girlfriends were all reporting back with crummy experiences too, so I came to the conclusion that straight, single men need to be cancelled in 2018.

And it turns out many of you agree with that sentiment. After that Instagram Story went live I received a wave of messages from followers reporting the same dating disappointments. But, the thing is, whilst we can all agree that straight, single men largely suck, we can’t force them to change their behaviour.

The only thing we can do is change our approach to dating.

So, over the New Year I thought long and hard about my recent dating experiences. I focused on the lessons I’ve learnt over the years, and wrote myself a list of dating rules to stick to in 2018. Here they are…

New Dating Rules 2018

My Dating Rules for 2018

1. Put your friendships at the top of your priority list. Any extra time can be dedicated to dating. Ovaries before brovaries, and all that jazz!
2. Step back. Take a pause. Be patient. Don’t be always the one doing the chase. Let them come to you.
3. Become less reliant on apps. Open yourself up to the possibility of meeting people in real life.
4. Think quality over quantity. Only go on dates if you genuinely want to know more about that person.
5. Let your friends know you’re open to being set up. Once they have a clear idea of what you’re looking for they might realise they know someone perfect for you.
6. Stop making excuses for other people’s bad behaviour. If you’re not being treated the way you would treat others step away immediately.
7. Only invest your time in people who make you smile.

I’m hoping that by following these principles I’ll have much better dating experiences in 2018. Let me know if you plan to follow this set of rules too, and whether you’ll be adding any other points to the list…

What are your dating rules for 2018? Will you be actioning any of the points on my list? Leave a comment below to share your thoughts…

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Photos by Debs Stubbington