3 Personality Quizzes That Will Help You Know Yourself Better

Best Personality Quizzes Online

Psychologist Erik Erikson once wrote, “The more you know yourself, the more patience you have for what you see in others.” I believe that to be true. And I have made a hobby out of getting know myself better. Because, ladies and gentleman, I am completely and utterly addicted to personality quizzes.

What does your favourite colour say about you? How emotionally intelligent are you? Which Disney Prince would you be compatible with? To me, all of these tests seem like useful (and fun) ways to fill up free time.

For many people personality quizzes are just a bit of fluff, lacking any science of clear reasoning. But I think some are truly insightful, and I have learnt a lot about myself (and those closest to me) from online questionnaires. Here are three of the best personality quizzes online to take. Even the cynics amongst you are likely to be impressed…

3 Best Online Personality Tests

3 of the Best Personality Quizzes to Take Online

1. The Myers–Briggs Type Indicator

The Meyers-Briggs Type Indicator is the big daddy of personality questionnaires. The framework was developed by mother-and-daughter duo, Katharine Cook Briggs and Isabel Briggs Myers, and was inspired by psychiatrist Carl Jung’s theory that at least one of four psychological functions are present for a person at any given moment.

There are 16 personality types within the Myers-Briggs framework, and you can discover which group you fall into by taking this quiz.

My Results… I am an ENFJ along with roughly 2% of the population. This means my main psychological functions are extraversion, intuition, feeling and judging. I can definitely see myself in the detailed ENFJ personality analysis, and reading the strengths and weaknesses has helped me to better understand myself. This particular section stood out to me:

“[ENFJ’s have] tremendous capacity for reflecting on and analyzing their own feelings, but if they get too caught up in another person’s plight, they can develop a sort of emotional hypochondria, seeing other people’s problems in themselves, trying to fix something in themselves that isn’t wrong.” {source}

I’ve definitely fallen into this trap before. But I didn’t have the language or capacity to diagnose what I was doing. Now I can be more aware of the “emotional hypochondria” I’m susceptible to, and work to harder to separate my emotions from others’.

The Best Personality Quizzes Online

2. The Four Tendencies Quiz

If you listen to the Let’s Discuss podcast you will have heard Monica and I discuss Gretchen Rubin’s Four Tendencies framework numerous times (we even dedicated an entire episode to it).

The framework defines how you react to both inner and outer expectations. This is worth analysing because the way you deal with expectations shapes your ability to form habits and communicate effectively with others.

There are four personality tendencies within the framework – Upholders, Obligers, Questioners and Rebels. And you can take the test to find out which you are here.

My Results… I am the classic Upholder. Which, in short means I “respond readily to outer and inner expectations.” Upholders form habits easily, meet deadlines without any fuss, place a huge amount of importance on following the rules and struggle to alter plans at the last minute or be flexible.

In Gretchen Rubin’s book, The Four Tendencies: The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your Life Better, you can learn how to unleash all the potential and power in your tendency. Gretchen also shares actionable tips in her weekly podcast and on her blog.

The Best Online Personality Quizzes

3. The 5 Love Languages Test

The 5 Love Languages theory was created by marriage counsellor Gary Chapman. He noticed that the majority of couples seeking his help were experiencing problems in their relationships because they weren’t giving and receiving love in the same way. Essentially, they were speaking two different languages.

Gary Chapman’s simple and effective framework singles out five key ways we give and receive love. These are through Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time and Physical Touch. By understanding your primary love language (and recognising your partner’s love language) you’re able to develop a more harmonious relationship. Take the quiz here.

My Results… After taking the quiz, the love languages are ranked in order of importance to you. Quality Time is my primary love language, although it didn’t win by much. Acts of Service, Physical Touch and Words of Affirmation all trailed closely behind on similar scores. But Receiving Gifts bombed, scoring only one or two points (clearly J.Lo’s ‘Love Don’t Cost a Thing’ should be the official soundtrack to my romantic life).

Whilst the quiz has helped to deepen my understanding of how I recognise and give love, I think it would be more effective if you were using it to learn more about your partner.

Are you addicted to online personality quizzes? Will you be taking any of these tests? And are there any others I should add to my list? Leave a comment below to share your thoughts…

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  1. Haha, I am exactly the same, can never refuse a good test 🙂 Although 99.9% they are utter shams 🙂

  2. Flic says:

    Oooh interesting! I got ESFJ, Obliger (not surprised – people pleaser right here!) and Quality Time… I think Myers-Briggs is so easily influenced however by what mood you’re in, as I just retook it out of interest and got the above – but historically am ENFP. Intriguing!


    • cocos_tea_party says:

      I agree on Myers Briggs – I think depending on your mood you could maybe alternate on one or two letters every now and then. xx

  3. Fascinating stuff, I can’t wait to take the tests to see what I get…Fran x


  4. Thank you for bringing these back! I am just so addicted to personality quizzes. Although these are obviously so much more insightful than the buzzfeed quiz I find myself taking every night!


  5. Jandrew says:

    How do I know me . Who am I ? Sit in your own truth , examine your identity . Is a quiz helpful maybe !
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